Yesterday I finished the book "How to Catch a Frog and other stories of family, love, dysfunction, survival and DIY" by Heather Ross. It was a memoir, a collection of short stories about growing up as the granddaughter of privilege minus the trust fund, stable family life and the comforts of what most parents would want for their children. As impoverished as it was financially and emotionally, it was rich in opportunity for adventure and imagination. Through each story, Heather's sense of humor, resourcefulness and bravery stand out.
Heather Ross writes at times nostalgically for her rural, nature-immersed childhood while making it clear that much of the time she and her twin sister were cold and hungry. She, her mother and twin sister were greatly reliant on a loosely woven safety net provided by loving grandparents, aunts and uncles, each encumbered by their own disfunction. The family members clearly love one another and Heather but are too wounded by their own addictions (her Uncle Mike), narrow-minded (her Paternal grandparents), immaturity (her father), selfishness (her mother), their religious superiority (her neighbors) to be capable of effectively loving.
Growing up Heather lacks a guide and roadmap to successful adulthood so she stumbles, a lot. Luckily for us she is willing to share those experiences in such a way that she and we can see the humor, feel her shame, fume with her anger, and ultimately relish in her happiness and joy.